Dupe Jayesimi, the ace Nigerian actress, has opened up about her struggles with childlessness and failed marriages.
In a recent interview on Talk2B podcast, Jayesimi, who got
married on October 22, 1988, revealed that she was pregnant at the time of her
wedding but lost the baby weeks later.
The actress who clocked 60 in July 2023 said despite
numerous medical tests and procedures, she was unable to conceive, which put a
strain on her marriage.
The film star disclosed that her ex-husband’s absence during
critical moments further complicated their efforts to conceive, ultimately
leading to the collapse of their marriage.
Jayesimi said her ex-husband moved in with another pregnant
woman just two weeks after their separation, leaving her depressed and turning
to alcohol for solace.
“I got married on October 22, 1988. I had been practicing
theatre, and the person I married knew about it at the time and was not upset.
However, his job required him to be available for two weeks and then
unavailable for the next two weeks,” she said.
“In our marriage, we did not have a child, although I
entered the marriage pregnant. I lost the pregnancy weeks into the wedding.
Since then, we have done a lot of tests. At one point, I was told they would
perform a procedure where they would open me up, and if my husband had
intercourse with me, I would become pregnant. We went ahead with the procedure,
but my husband did not show up until three months later.
“When he returned, I became angry. He asked why I was angry
and said I should have moved out if I was tired of the marriage. By then, we
were already five years into the marriage. There were rumors that my life was
in danger, so I had to leave.
“Two weeks after I left the marriage, he brought in another
woman who was pregnant. The situation left me so depressed that I started
drinking alcohol at the time.”
Jayesimi said she had given up on marriage until she met a
man, whom she described as a father figure.
She said although they attempted IVF twice, both procedures
were unsuccessful. She also shared her experience with an ectopic pregnancy at
40, which required medical intervention.
Jayesimi said she considered adoption but faced opposition
from her mother.
“I had initially decided that I would not get married again
until I met an Alhaji who was like a father to me. I wished I had met him
before my failed marriage. We tried IVF twice, but it did not work,” she said.
“When I was about 40, I got pregnant but did not know it at
the time. I used to feel pain in my abdomen and went to the hospital for tests
and scans. I was told I was pregnant, but it was an ectopic pregnancy. After
the procedure, I have not been able to get pregnant since.
“I left the marriage with the Alhaji when his first wife
started having issues with him. I considered adoption, but my mother said she
would kill any child I adopted. I left Alhaji about 15 years ago.
“Since then, I have not had a child. I am not someone who
broods over issues, and I would never consider suicide. I know God’s time will
come for me.
Jayesimi said she remains hopeful and resilient, expressing
gratitude for her career and the children she has raised.
“When I think about the things I have done—the children I
have raised, hoping they would take care of me, but they did not—I am grateful
that God blessed me with this job. So, I do not dwell on these things, and I
will not,” she added.
“The only thing I want now is to have a child I can take
everywhere, one that people will associate with my name. If I had been away
from my parents for long, I would have adopted a child.”
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