Ustaz Sa’eed Abdur-Rauf, an
Islamic scholar and Director, Nigeria Office of International Institute of
Islamic Therapy, has called on women, particularly Muslims, to accept the
reality of polygamy in building lasting relationships.
Mr Abdur-Rauf, also the Managing
Director of De Minaret International, Abuja, made the call on Saturday in
Ibadan during the 4th Annual Ramadan Lecture organised by Oyo District of The
Criterion, an association of Muslim women in business and the professions.
In the lecture entitled ‘Marital
Chaos: The Islamic Antidote,’ Abdur-Rauf, said polygamy was a law of God.
“As a Muslim woman, you should
know that there is no alternative to it. If your husband brings a new wife, you
should be able to endure it. It is not easy, but you must be able to appreciate
than endure it,” he said.
Mr Abdur-Rauf, who listed
polygamy, financial problem, hurtful utterances and role of the devil as
factors affecting the home-front, said the most important antidote was fear of
God.
He admonished couples to always
be prayerful and patient in times of financial problems than collapsing their
relationship for minor trials. cautioned
couples against hurtful utterances, urging them to be humble and appreciate
each other’s sense of pride.
“In every clime, there must be a
leader. We have the father as the master of the house while the wife is meant
to be subservient. The husband must treat and utilise his powers with fear of
God. We must always be mindful of our hurtful utterances against one another.
These utterances sometimes are unpardonable and aggravates the problem of the
home-front,” he said.
Mr Abdur-Rauf concluded that the
problem of marriages only required an expression of piety and fear of God,
adding that there would be peace and comfort when the couple are pious and
could identify each other’s rights.
Sekinat Adekola, Iya-Adinni of
Yoruba land, urged couples to seek the help of God on all issues with patience,
perseverance and total reliance on God.
Mrs Adekola said it was with such
that anyone could grow spiritually and earn the favour of God.
“I have been in my marriage for
the past 59 years and it has been very peaceful. The secret behind it has been
prayer, patience, perseverance and total reliance on God,” she said.
Earlier, Falilat Olatunji, the
Amirah of the association, said the essence of the topic was to reveal the
solutions to marriage problems from the Islamic perspective.
She said that the importance of
marriage in Islam could not be over-emphasized as lots of Quranic verses and
Hadiths were pointers to the fact.
“The wife is not meant to provide
sensuous pleasure only to the male, but to fully cooperate with the husband in
making the life of the family and ultimately of the whole humanity
significantly meaningful. Islam as a total way of life have ways of solving
perceived problems in marriages. This and many more are the reasons for the
lecture,” she said.
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