Singer 9ice sat down for an interview with veteran TV
personality Funmi Iyanda and they got to discuss 9ice's broken marriage
specifically and marriages in general.
Iyanda recalled the last time she saw him was at his house
when he was still married to his first wife. She said she was sad that his
marriage hit the rocks and asked if he was married again as the papers report.
This he denied.
When Funmi asked him to clear the air on his status, the
Gongo Aso singer launched into an explanation on the problem with modern
day marriages.
"I'm single but I'm not searching because it's not part of my priority right now. I've dealt with this topic so many times and people just tend to take the negative side of it but it's like they don't understand what I'm saying because they're not in my shoe."
He continued: "Marriage is not for this generation... I have my reasons (for saying that) because, as a Nigerian, as a Yoruba man, there are some culture and tradition that you're being taught when you're being brought up as a man. You want the same thing from your wife (but) you're not going to get it from today's woman. because then we have exposure. They are the ones that sent us to school. And I still want my woman to serve me food and kneel down. Ejo Aunty, who's going to do that for me now?"
He added: "but you're not going to get that as a man, so we today's men, we need to get that into our thick skull that you're not going to get the same thing your mom is giving to your dad. You are going to get something different because who you're getting married to is quite different from your mom. But we are not ready. That's why you see that this generation is losing marriages, six months and it's dissolved.
He went on to advise people to marry for the right reasons
and not out of societal pressures and asked that people are certain beyond all
reasonable doubt before going into marriage. He warned couples not to go
through with marriages if they become uncertain before walking down the
aisle. Citing his wedding as an example, the father-of- four revealed
that he had a moment of doubt before he tied the knot but had to go through
with it for fear of what people will say.
"Before you go to the altar, like five to ten minutes,
your mind will be telling you that this thing is not going to work," he
said and when Iyanda asked if that happened to him, he replied, "It
happened to me, but I felt it because I was like 'come on, I have so many
things to lose more than what I'm going to gain'. Because if I do that, it's
like I'm against the rest of the world."
He advised: "So we should hundred percent get married
for what will make you happy. Regardless of the culture, regardless of your
parents, get married because you want to get married. Get married because it
will make you happy. Don't get married because Tinuke got married."
See the full interview below.
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This guy parents must be from the village or they brought his mum from the village for his father to marry so she worshipped him like a village god.Who amongst readers of this had a mum who went on her knees to serve dinner for her husband?No wonder all this guys who were born in the villages then came to Lagos to become guys still failed to realise city life ain't same to the villages they came from.If you want a wife that would kneel down for you to serve you dinner,that's easy,marry a typical village raised lady without education
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to attack his parent..he said that is what saw while growing up..and come to talk of it these so call ladies of this generation are not following what they saw while growing up..even without kneeling down there is this strong respect and honour for their husband are you not alarmed at the rate of broken home of this generation...one thing you have to know is that no matter how rich and influntial you are you don't toil with a man ego no matter how small or poor he is and this ego is the way to his heart and a successful marriage..respect and honour that ego and evrything will be fine.. Except for abusive ones..I think 9ice is right.
Deleteyou just nailed it with your points.
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