Nollywood actress, Susan Peters posted a very deep write up on love, marriage and relationships. In her opinion,"Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else"
The actress who got married in 2015 believes that relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart.
See what she wrote below:
"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.Click to signup for FREE news updates, latest information and hottest gists everyday
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself bridle your emotions.
#MayGodhelpusall"
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Wow!!! Who is this actress? I think I read a lot but I must confess that I have never read a write-up like this one before. It's blunt, genuine and factual. It's touchy and very real. May God bless you Nollywood actress, Susan Peters! Your husband is blessed for his woman to know this. I am sending this out to my sister and I hope your write up will inspire her. I have always said it that if you are not spiritual and God fearing, you can easily be tempted and fall. Usually, when a woman or man cheats, people think that, they don't love their spouses. But I tell them they do but it's lack of control. Me too, I see ladies who appear to be more beautiful than my wife. But I always console myself that, if I get closer to them, they won't be as beautiful as my wife. Therefore, I run away as I believe my wife is the most beautiful and the best as of today. And I pray she will remain the same throughout our lives. God bless us all. And thank you for the post, Susan.
ReplyDeleteYou are right. But remember that love endures all things. Really love. You are well blessed.
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