Singer,
Jodie during an interview with Linda Ikeji TV opened up about all she went
through during childbirth that put her between life and death, to discovering
that her son was diagnosed with Lissencephaly and Cerebral Palsy after two
weeks. She also opened up about how she's dealing with raising a child with
special needs.
"When I was having
my baby, I thought I was going to die at a point. I was in an emergency CS and
at a point, when they put.., the I don't know what they call it medically, to
induce me, my husband at the time was in the room, and I said; 'Is Chinua okay?'
because we named him before he was born, I just wanted to know If my baby was
fine. I could barely know what was happening. Is he fine? He said, yes.
So I was like if I'm
going to die now, my son is fine. I just slipped into unconsciousness. And I
felt I was in an empty space. A void. I was me, myself and I for real.
And I was Jodie, at this point, you are either going forward or going back oh.
I started remembering some songs I wrote then that I had not released.
Honestly, and they were christian songs. I said Ah God, if I go now, those
songs will just waste? Laughs.. I mean it. That's one of the things that
happened, amongst other things. The summary of it all is that I'm happy I'm
alive."
How has
this experience joining into motherhood shaped you?
"I'm learning about
myself. Yes oh. I am learning to love myself much more. I love my son and my
boy is unique. I'm saying this not for pity but because some mothers find themselves
in my shoes. my boy, after labour it affected him. He didn't cry for 9 hours
that first day, 9th of April. So he cried miraculously at the time his father
and my sister were running around by 2am or whatever am
running around to get a hospital to admit him because they had to refer him. He
was admitted and the doctors said he's going to be this, going to be that. We
finally got home and weeks later started noticing a depression in his head.
They referred us to another hospital and eventually we had to this scan, that
scan, that test.
Eventually, they said he
was diagnosed with Lissencephaly and Cerebral Palsy. Lissencephaly is a rare
brain disorder, Cerebral Palsy is the more popular one. The doctors said there
is no cure, manage it, we're so sorry. That came with its own ripple effect.
At some point, some
doctors would say just leave this baby with your mother. Do you have a mother?
Because you'll run crazy. When they told me to leave my child. I wasn't trying
to be a supermom but at the same time, I didn't know how to cope initially with
all that news. They'll tell you your child may not walk or talk, may die before
he's two-year-old, he may die so so so so and they are telling you with more
certainty than not.
Then at the end of the
day, they'll say there's nothing prayer can not do, so that it won't be that
they didn't add that part. You'll hear different people say, don't take him
out, don't let people see him oh, don't snap him pictures oh, because your
child is special."
"I snap my child. His head is not perfect, the skull shape is not what
people call perfect but it's the most perfect skull that I've ever seen. I take
him out when I want to. His cry is the perfect one.
I'm saying this because
of mothers who have special kids. Be proud of your child. Sometimes we don'
know why certain things happen. We really don't know.
Be proud of your child,
Take him out and spend money on him If you don't have, work. pray for God to
bless you. It's much more expensive taking care of a special child than an
average child. We go to the hospital every week, the gadgets. The medications,
is much more expensive. If you can't afford it, pray and work. Don't just say
they said the child is going to die, so you just leave the child. I would do my
own as a human being. Being a mother to that special boy has made less afraid
and has made me willing to live. It has made me want to enjoy myself.
The birth process made know
that life is short and you can go anytime. Don't let any doctor discourage you
from enjoying your child."
"Africans generally
are not outspoken when it has to do with stuff like this with people, I
realized why am I hiding it? I am not ashamed of my boy. I'm not. People can
learn, be encouraged. Be proud of you child. Don't be ashamed. I got a nanny; initially
I got two nannies because that was the most realistic thing to do. When he was
younger, when he was awake, he's crying and you cannot sit down and carry him.
You must stand up in a certain way. Initially, But now, he sits down, he's
growing. The doctors tell you that your child might be able to do some things
that we initially said he can't do, God willing. But development may be slow.
Just be patient."
On how her child's father has been of support, Jodie said, I don't want to talk. Recall that earlier on this year, it looked like Jodie and her actor hubby, David Nnaji, were facing marital challenges after she was spotted many times without her wedding ring, and she stopped sharing her hubby's photos, just hers and her baby.
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I salute ur courage, may God visit u at d point of ur need.
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