Maimuna Anyene died with her four children (Kamsi, 2, twins Kayna and Kayne 1, and Kamal, 7 months), her husband, mother and other relatives in last Sunday’s DANA AIR PLANE CRASH while heading to Lagos to attend her younger brother (Ndako Mijindadi)’s wedding, which was scheduled to hold yesterday June 9th. Maimuna lived in the US, and was in Nigeria with her kids specifically to see her husband who lived mostly in Nigeria and to attend her brother’s wedding. But they all died in the ill fated flight.
Ndako Mijindadi, Maimuna‘s younger brother went ahead with his wedding despite losing Maimuna and eight other family members in that crash. The wedding held yesterday at the Incubator, Victoria Island, Lagos.
Ndako is now being heavily criticized for going ahead with the wedding, while the family was still mourning the huge loss. Some friends and well-wishers, who do not want their identity let out to the public have criticized Ndako's decision to go ahead with the wedding, considering the fact that the family was still mourning, and the deceased haven't been buried.
Do you think his decision to go ahead with the wedding barely a week after losing 9 close relations in the Tragic Plane Crash was right?
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Some "friends and well-wishers", who do not want their identity let out to the public .....
ReplyDeletewhy do people feel that they have an input in family decisions?
The dead are gone, they did their 7th day prayer before the wedding. Will postponing the wedding bring back the dead? Ultimately, it is a family decision and nobody's business. Why are people grieving more than the bereaved? Look at that young man's bloodshot eyes.
I dont think he should go ahead.
ReplyDeleteHow long should he mourn them before going ahead with the wedding?
ReplyDeleteIf He mourns them for a month, some one will say it should have been six months or one year. Another will say the wife is bad luck, etc.
Changing the date will not change what happened. Let Him be. He has lost some, let Him not also loose the lady he loves (double traedy-heartbreak).
Peace!
Wiseman
They should have honoured the dead by at least, rescheduling their wedding date! Habaaa. It was for their sake these people died! It was insensitive of them to go ahead merrying while even the people that are not related to the family are still morning the extradiction of one man's family. Except it wasn't his wedding they were coming for! If is was, they should still be in state of grief by now. Na wa for some people oooo!! This is incontestible!!! It is wrong, insensitive and selfish!!!
ReplyDeleteY can,t u guys leave this family alone.have they not suffered enough pls let them be n stop condenming them.the well wishers that said is wrong,y did they attended the wedding?they could have sat down in their house.u can please people and please is their family decision is none of anybody business.busybody people.
ReplyDeleteHe should have waited for them to been buried if not for any thing.
ReplyDeleteif they only knew how much it takes to plan a wedding, then am sure the very oblivious people would keep their mouths shut. vendors have collected money to provide services, the hall had been paid for, entertainment, food, drinks, photography, etc. what did u want him to do? congratulations to the young couple, and may God be with you always and especially during this trying time. All the best!
ReplyDeleteWhy not wait for the dead to be buried at least? That is the least they would have done for the spirit of the dead. Apart from being Africans, there is something called conscience.
ReplyDeletethe dead are gone.trust me no matter how long he held off on doin d weddin,people would still have talked so...
ReplyDeletehmmm, i don't see anything wrong in this. like most of you said here, the dead is gone and life still goes on. i think he still deserves to have a course to smile (like going ahead with the marriage) after the tragedy. the same thing happened to my aunt. she lost her dad few days to her marriage but that didn't stop her from going ahead with the wedding even when she was in grief. if you ask me that takes courage and its not insensitive nor selfish.
ReplyDeleteLife goes on...1 week is more than enough..Is there anywhere in bible or Quran that specifically states how long one should mourn the dead before resuming our normal lives,what if i had to resume school in another country or have a Million dollar meeting in another country,or have surgery in another country? So because i lost my love one,demands that i will forfeit everything that matters most in my life? C'mon men....
ReplyDeleteu loose 9 members of ur family 7 less dan a week u go ahead wit d weddin? cmon guys, even if d dead wont rise again, dis doesnt speak well.
ReplyDeleteAnybody who think they (the couple) didn't care by going ahead with the marriage ceremony should BOLDLY challenge God for allowing it to happen in the first place. Please, for God sake, you guys (including the media) should leave this family alone. I remember Jesus once told a man who would loved to work with him gave excuse to quickly bury his relative...Jesus response, 'let the dead bury the dead'. Now tell me do you think He (Jesus) doesn't care? Absolutely not. UTI was criticized for staying back in the BIG Brother reality tv show after the death of his father, yet a lot celebrated him today. Did you think he didn't care? He gave his father a befitting burial after his victory and his return.
ReplyDeletewhat he did was very bad,he should have waited a bit to mourn his family that died because of him.it was too soon,not nice at all.
ReplyDeleteNigerian eye u have just fallen my hand. I am terribly disappointed with you people. What is the import of this story? that he should have continued mourning the dead and postponed the wedding? So their death would have been in vain. You absolutely got it wrong with this story. If i could, I'd sue you for carrying this total misrepresentation of facts and libel on your page. 234next didn't go under for more than this.
ReplyDeleteRonke you sound like a baby, wat does it cost to plan for wedding, i am not saying he shudn't have continue the wedding, those people are already gone, waiting will not bring them back.
ReplyDeleteIf he decide to go ahead shouldn't be on the cost and arrangement for the wedding, what if the groom was the one that died, Ronke how you go come do the whole arrangement.
U don't know these people or what they have been through!!! No family or friends that share their pain or cry with them have criticised or objected to the wedding.
ReplyDeleteDid you try to get the whole story or the reasons behind the decisions taken?
Sahara reporters should verify their stories before publishing or they just become another rumour mongering site!
Am speechless, infact i don't know what to make of the whole thing. Am still in shock for the closure of the entire lineage of the deceased and am not fully recovered. Then this wedding, hmnnnnn, even if they have paid to all vendors and what not for the wedding arrangements, respect should be given to the dead, they should have waited for them to be buried. Infact, they don't need any elaborate wedding or red carpet ceremony anymore, but just wed in a quite ceremony after the burial. Remember his mum was among the dead and not just his sister and the entire family.
ReplyDeleteAll sorts of comment on this page but one thing stands clear - none of you has ever lost someone before your wedding. People are talking about conscience, its selfish and stuff but none of you know what its like to be in the guy's shoes. To sit down pretty on your system and mete out judgement to others is beyond selfish and insensitive. To publish crap like this in the name of journalism is beyond insensitive. To keep on bothering the family after such a loss, nigerianeye you are totally unkind. What do you mean controversy spills? This is the kind of tabloid story that kills genuine readership and followership. A story like this deserves neutral representation. Did you talk to the groom and bride? did you talk to the groom's brother? did u get anyone at all to tell you why the wedding still went on? You just picked one side of the story and published. This is below the belt and can only add more hurt to the family, who are looking for something to at least be happy about in all the gloom and doom. And all you could do is encourage callous nigerians to join voices to call them selfish. Please be very proud of yourselves.
ReplyDeleteNigerian eye... u are very insensitive and i pray you go under. leave the young couple alone and let them live their lives. they had a very solemn ceremony. he has someone to comfort him through this rough period... his bride. anytime he celebrates his anniversary he remembers his loved ones that passed. that is enuf.. stop the criticism. please delete this article and let them live their lives otherwise you will bare the warth of God.
ReplyDeleteEven most people Coming for the wedding are relatives of the dead.they should have honoured the dead.
ReplyDeleteKullunnafsi zahikattul maut,every soul shall die no matter what,so i do think that they should delay anything. may Allah forgive them all their sins and grant them paradise.
ReplyDeletehaba!!! all those in support of him going ahead with d wedding have no blood flowing in their veins. The least he should have done was to postpone the wedding till after the burial as a mark of respect for his family members that died. fOR God's sake aren't we talking about human beigns here with innocent kids,all hail and hearty that lost their lives senselessly...where is ur conscience Ndako
ReplyDeletea whole 9 members of the family, all in the name of attending the so call wedding? haba! if I am in their shoes I will cancel the wedding even me that did not have anybody in that plane crash i still feel for them even up till now that i am writing this comment, it was a terrible death, it is an everlasting pain that will linger in the memory.
ReplyDeletepersonalities differ.For them to have gone ahead with the wedding does not mean the death of the family members did not pain them.The death is already a great loss and cancellation of the wedding will amount to another loss, should he be recording losses alone? The couple needed something... to placate them at least. We need higher understandih here!
ReplyDeleteNigerians, I am so terribly amazed seeing all sort of comments spilling out here especially from those that support the going ahead of the wedding or not. I am now so afraid of this country and the citizenry. What are we turning to? Cold blooded beings? With no emotions again all because the past few months we have witnessed so many disasters that the life of human beings never matters to us again? That is why even these days people will see fellow human beings dieing by the road sides and they never will shrink at it. I don't think some Nigerians are human again. But God will heal all and bring back our emotions because He is a God with emotions and He created us likewise.
ReplyDeleteFor those passionately supporting he did the right thing, maybe you have quickly forgotten but let me paint it to you again, Your wedding is next week, your sister with her four Children, her husband, YOUR MOTHER, with 2 other family members crashed and died ON THEIR WAY TO YOUR WEDDING! Haba!
Pls. Give me a break.
For your information, here in the United States, we still have neigbours in their neigboorhood grieving seriously for this loss. People that doesn't know them coming to drop flowers at the door. This is where just one soul matters not to talk of 9. I am terribly afraid for Nigerians.
Let me close this by saying the action of those guys and those that even attended the wedding and their supporters is a Microscopic view of the kind of Leaders we have in Nigeria. Heartless, Cold blooded that never shrinks at your suffering. They see all your sufferings but they are so heartless just like these guys to shrink at it. And can you see God is not to blame here, for its like wicked leaders leading wicked people. Ofcourse I know there are several other gold hearted and loving Nigerians but my Holy book help me understand that "if the wicked is suffering, the righteous will unfortunately partake in it".
For the gold hearted and loving folks, I will just implore you all to continue earnestly in prayers, our country and its citizenry are SICK.
Adeyinka
I can understand from the passage there, that the bodies were yet to be burried @ the time the had the wedding... But my quetion is; if one of the couple was involved in the plane crash, would they have gone ahead with the wedding?
ReplyDeletewe talking about his family members who wer coming for dis particular wedding...the wedding should ve been postponed it until after the burial whole nation is still morning for his loss .however said that the wedding cant be shifted cos of the money he has spent is just being insensitive wht if he had been the one on that plane!lets not forget that he has the highest number of pple that are close to him on that plane
ReplyDeleteNothing against the newly wedded couple accept the fact that they demonstrate high level of insensitive ,it became a topic here due to it abnormality.
ReplyDeleteI like to tell ronke that no matter the level of arrangement;they all can be post-pon at least after the burial.
Nigerian Media and many people on here are very ignorant.
ReplyDeletePlease leave this family alone. They are still mourning the loss of their family members. If he decides to go ahead with the wedding, so be it. It doesnt mean that he's not mourning, besides it's believed that weddings should not be cancelled or postponed cos of death, accident or any mishap, although it will be a sober event. Please for God's sake, leave this family alone!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAdeyinka, Anonymous profiles at 10:32, 11:03, 11:06, 11:44, 1:00 and 1:16,
ReplyDeleteYou guys are not being fair at all. You expect him to cancel his wedding plan to conclude mourning his people. But no problem. You are entitled to your opinion. You must respect his opinion also. My beef is however with Nigerianeye. This is a terrible attempt at tabloid journalism. This is a story of grief and looking for positives in the midst of gloom. Yet you publish a one-sided story to elicit comments from people and hopefully boost traffic to your page. Your aim looks achieved as i can see but be assured that you'll never be taken seriously by the kind of readership that brings the success you seek. Linda Ikeji published this crap too and had the decency to remove the story. You have encouraged the likes of Adeyinka to sit down in the USA and tell us how to live in Nigeria. Do the right thing. Take this story down. Honestly speaking, if i had the time, i'd take up a class action suit against your paper for this crap.
I am a close friend of the young man and visited him after the accident. He cried and cried no end with gloominess painted heavily on his mien even till now (note the blood-shot eyes). He was encouraged to go ahead to ensure the reason for the sacrifice of those he lost was not in vain. He's one of the kindest soul any man can know; please do not say unkind words cos of what you see outwardly. The marriage event was even sober so much that He even wept during the ceremony. Just send them your prayers and not curses please.
ReplyDeleteone of the easiest things to do in this world is to Judge, but please get all the facts right before you do.
This is for everyone who criticize this young man. What if the incident happen after the wedding? You will ask him to divorce his wife or WHAT? For God sake NigeriaEye please in the name of God remove this headline and let this matter rest and whoever think it is easy for the young man should pray to be in his shoes just for a day.
ReplyDeleteIt doesnt change anything. whether or not he postpones the wedding,the dead wont rise.besides how long is enof to 'mourn'?people wil stil talk no matter how long he waits,so he may as well get on with it.
ReplyDeletePeople,stop JUDGING!
well they have lived thier lives its just unfortunate that they died in the crash. i am sure his sister wherever wud b happy he is going ahead with his life. life goes on!
ReplyDeletesome people have no respect for human lives, why was she in Nigeria in the first place was it not for the wedding?, now his mother and sister are dead and he cant just wait for them to be buried. These Boko harem people na waooooooooooo.
ReplyDeleteDear NigerianEye, I have seen this same article on two sites and I posted my comments. I will do the same on your site as well:
ReplyDeletefor a grieving family, this is a very insensitive post..a wedding involves the participation of the family, so the family support going ahead with the marriage & it was not just the groom..
the family also held prayers for the deceased in the morning and then had the wedding..all the info was on a memorial site in honour of the deceased...
Maybe you should pay the family a visit, so that they can explain to you why they decided to go ahead with the wedding?
**of all the questions that you could think of, this is what you can come up with? we have a forum that we can use to make a change, unfortunately we are using it to cause more pain** In the UK a group of young men and women set-up an online forum and through it they have used social media to influence government policies for the benefit of the people...***.
Please note that I know no one in the crash, so they did not ask me reply you. It just pains me that this is all people can see..i think of the men, women & babies that died, homes destroyed..and this is what we come up with?
So we now that our own personal issues and challenges have been resolved - next item is to pass judgement over other people private's matter? Nigerian Eye koo..Nigerian 'Amebo ni'!!! Psheew...
ReplyDeleteNigerian eye this story is not relevant you too dont have concsience,Nigerians are still mourning you would have been more objective you reported it too one sided.Most of us share the same of opinion of burying the dead before any merriment.Wedding arrangements,food,hall, aseobi etc cannot be compared to loved ones lost therefore if you loose that let it go its material and people will understand that you showing respect after all what is the point of carrying out a ceremony filled with tears how do you dance,drink,eat,take pics in such an atmosphere and the dead calling out to be laid to rest properly.The bride lost no family member here she should have shown this family that she cares for those who died than just being MRS in a hurry see her smiling while the guys eyes are filled with tears.imagine the bride walks out on the groom after a year so what will all of you say. The family went ahead with the wedding for reasons best known to them i guess we should respect that.
ReplyDeleteI wish them a happy married life .
ReplyDeleteGod knows best.
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I think every one's sense of reasoning has to do with the person's religion. Now, it is obvious her paternal relations are Moslems, people should just mind their businesses and allow them to mourn the way they do.
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